you are a powerful muse for him
understand his man-mind
Did you know that a man cannot stay close or step up for you if he feels like he can’t make you happy.
When he feels like he can’t make you happy, he doesn’t feel like enough. He feels he is not good enough.
Also when he feels wronged, blamed and shamed (even if he is “in the wrong”) he feels like he can’t make you happy and his wounded masculine and feminine expressions are more likely to come out.
It is true that he has responsibility to manage his own responses, but you have a responsibility to be considerate of the way his man-mind works.
When a man feels like he cannot succeed, deliver, provide, protect and please you, or make you happy, it emasculates him and destroys his empowered masculine energy.
When you over explain yourself, try to justify your feelings, when you nag, complain and workshop the relationship meaning keep having big, long drawn out talks about the things that are going wrong and going into all the details– He doesn’t feel like he can make you happy.
Bare in mind, he is single focused. Piling all this on him makes his brain feel like mash potato.
He won’t know how to handle the situation and this is why his wounds will express, rather than his empowered energies.
be the most empowered you can be for you…
You can inspire his empowered expression. That’s how powerful you are. It’s not about doing it for just him; it’s about being your most empowered self and doing your part because that is what feels the best for you.
It never feels good when you know you’ve not communicated well or when you feel like you’re butting heads or having to explain yourself. Anger, frustration and resentments build.
It feels bad when you have lowered yourself to poor communication and wounded expressions. It feels awful when you get stuck in your wounded masculine or feminine self and you know that you have contributed to the negative outcome.
It feels exhausting when you are always trying to sort things out and fix the relationship. When you carry the weight of it all and feel like you’re dragging him along. It doesn’t have to be this way.
The best approach is moment to moment, empowered feminine communication.
I get it, it can feel tiresome at times when it feels like it’s all on you to be the emotionally mature one, making effort but ultimately that is who you are and who you desire to be and it’s what feels best for you too. So, it’s about owning that and honouring that and BEING the empowered feminine woman you know you can be, for YOU, because it’s who you are.
It’s not always easy and sometimes you will not get it quite right. That’s ok. You’re human. Don’t be hard on yourself or expect total perfection here. Even just little shifts towards the empowered femme can make all the difference between you both.
Shifting the dynamic requires mastering your Empowered Feminine self and communicating in the Empowered Feminine way.
The Empowered Feminine is not about taking on responsibility for his feelings and his reactions. It is not about trying to control or micromanage him or the situation. It’s not about managing him, his feelings, his responses or pandering and catering to wounds. That is not your job. You don’t have to try so hard and take that all on.
It’s also not about trying to get a certain outcome or change him.
All of that is not Empowered Feminine energy. It is controlling. You have to surrender control to allow for FULL authenticity to emerge.
The Empowered Feminine is about being 100% authentically expressed in a way that is focused on you and your feelings, rather than telling him what he has done wrong and how that MADE you feel and why it’s wrong and why you feel that way.
Keeping it focused on you and giving him space with less details, and more leaning back allows him to figure it out and step into his empowered masculine self.
HE will come to YOU. He will step up. He will do the lifting. You will be amazed at how kind and supportive he truly is.
You simply observe from a far to see who he truly is and then you get to respond from there.
It’s not about it “working”, it’s about seeing who he becomes. Usually when given the right conditions and true chance (the empowered femme), men will become deeply inspired and empowered. The empowered masculine is naturally magnetised to the empowered feminine.
It’s feels counter-intuitive, especially when a man doesn’t seem to understand or get it or when you feel misunderstood by him. When he has behaved poorly, when he has spoken out of turn and when you feel compelled to make him see the errors of his ways.
But TELLING him won’t get you anywhere, INSPIRING him will.
time is your superpower
The Empowered Feminine is ok with things taking TIME. With letting go of needing difficult conversations, conflict, disagreements, and upsets to be fixed NOW and FAST.
The Empowered Feminine is consciously, purposely slower. She is more considered and process focused. She knows TIME leads to the most aligned outcomes.
The Empowered Feminine leans back, she gifts him space and herself time, which creates a magnetism. She lets him figure it out in his own way whilst she stands firm within herself, validating her feelings and not taking on his wounds. She expresses from her feeling space and leans right back.
It’s not easy to stand firm and lean back, rather than lean forward or move forward, especially when all your own wounds and triggers are coming up. Just WAIT. Slow down.
It’s so tempting to offer the explanations and the solutions but when you do you perpetuate his inner wounds and prevent him from accessing his best self.
When a woman half heartedly implements these things, she may not discover who he truly is.
Men need space to process and come into their empowered masculine selves.
Women need time to process, and self-validate.
When you gift yourself time and him space, you will start to experience his love, presence, support, his solutions, his ideas moving towards you. He does the heavy lifting, he comes to you, he sorts it out, he steps up and you will remain his top priority.
Do you feel sceptical and like this doesn’t apply to your man and won’t work with him? Do you assume he’s not capable?
What I know to be true, is that this is an energy dynamic thing and less about his personality traits, his astrology and his conditioning.
When you shift the dynamic via the way you operate and communicate, and via your energy you rebalance the relationship dynamic and you start seeing the empowered man that’s within him.
if you feel the calling…
If you want to learn how to Inspire The Empowered Masculine, you will love my 4 module course that teaches you exactly how to do this.
In this course you will:
>Master the masculine and feminine dynamic
>Understand your man/men
>Learn Empowered Feminine Communication skills
>Ignite your pleasure power
Click here to receive Inspire The Empowered Masculine.
Improve your sensual, sexual and orgasmic health
feminine orgasmic secrets
I have been told on multiple occasions that I am the OG – Orgasm Goddess!
And you know what, it feels true to me.
Here’s the thing; as playful, fun and exciting being an OG is, I feel deeply serious about orgasm and I take my role very seriously indeed.
Many women do not know that the big O is not just some frivolous thing.
It is genuinely vital for female sexual health, pelvic health, a women’s wellbeing, mental health and vitality.
Many women don’t know that there is an array or orgasmic experiences to explore.
When a woman becomes orgasmic, her body and mind respond. There are physiological, biochemical and biological processes happening that tone the muscles and condition the tissues within her yoni. These processes release tension and prevent vaginal, womb and pelvic issues like prolapse, incontinence, numbness, pain and many other female sexual health concerns. Plus being orgasmic is proven to elevate mood and relax the nervous system when practiced in certain ways.
women report to me that becoming orgasmic has improved their:
>Pleasure during sexual play with a partner
>Sexual confidence and overall confidence
>Mood and mental health
>Capacity for joy and pleasure in all areas of life
>Pelvic health – they’ve literally healed from injury, imbalances, chronic vaginal health issues and hormonal issues
>Controlling tendencies- they are not as highly strung, Don’t micromanage and try to control every damn thing anymore. They feel more relaxed and trusting of life, themselves and their body.
>Their manifestations and ability to attract their desires
>Their business and relationship with money
>Their sense of satisfaction and fulfilment in life and relationships
There are deeper things too such as:
>Integrating painful and traumatic experiences
>Increased courage and finding their voice
>Feeling safe within their body
>Finding true self-love and respect.
>Finally feeling validated in their experience of their sexual self and sexual journey
>Increasing their capacity to receive in general
>Being able to see difficult situations more clearly and not being so reactive
I cannot list all the things here because it would take years but what I can tell you is that being orgasmic is one of the most important keys to becoming the kind of woman you truly want to be and living the kind of life you truly want to be living.
your body holds the answers
I know it’s a sensitive topic for many women. It can feel daunting to be vulnerable and share honestly where you’re at with yourself, let alone someone else. It’s not a linear process and it can take time to move through your blocks to bliss.
What I know to be true is that with the right information, education and support you too can become an OG!
I want this for ALL women. It is our God/Goddess given birth right! We were not born with these beautiful, amazing bodies that have the potential to be deeply pleasure- full, for no reason.
Being Orgasmic is our medicine and our magic.
if you feel the calling…
If you are feeling the call to journey into your sensual, sexual and orgasmic self then you may feel aligned to my offering – Awaken Your Pleasure.
This is a 6 module process that incrementally teaches you how and assists you to open sensually and sexually and become fully expressed in your pleasure.
I offer this as either an online home-course or you can opt for bespoke, private 1:1 support over 3,6 or 9 months depending on your personal requirements.
You receive access to Awaken Your Pleasure: 6 modules, each module has 2 teaching videos, at least 3 implementations practice audios with demo videos, tools and written exercises.
With the private 1:1 support option you also receive 3 zoom calls a month with 1 integration week, message access between sessions and bespoke support and practices for your personal requirements.
You can purchase the course in my store on my website or apply to work with me 1:1 under the work with me tab.
It is my pleasure to see you blossom in your pleasure.
Have an amazing day and remember to keep it juicy!
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